@SleepyCatten@cultofshiv.wtf
She/They 🏳️⚧️ | Married 👭💍 | Bi-Sapphic | Non-Binary Trans+ Fem / Woman / Fem Entity | Therian | Neurodivergent (AuDHD) | Plural& (Median, Blurian) | Disabled | Spoonie | Emotional Sponge | Mental Health Issues Accumulator | Trans+ GAHT (HRT) Amateur (Homebrew / DIY)
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Profile picture by NyxisArt shows us as a catgirl. The profile header / banner by Brynn shows a tabby cat lying on a quilt with patches showing our various identities (e.g., trans+, non-binary, autistic, ADHD, bisexual, plural, spoonie, etc.)
Replying to @PurpleStephyr@thetransagenda.gay
That would be useful... especially as electrolysis takes so much precision, dexterity, and stamina for the electrologist.
We miss our electrolysis sessions. They were honestly always enjoyable, even when the pain got through enhanced numbing cream.
Replying to @bea_lor@eldritch.cafe
@bea_lor Yays 🥰
Replying to @wizardneedsfood@retro.pizza
Doomer... or realist? 🩷
In the same way, it's not paranoia if they are all after you.
Replying to @catsalad@infosec.exchange
We put a chair next to the bed recently. Now one of our cats sleeps there mostly, instead of overheating us during the summer heat.
We regret nothing 🤭
(We won't need to move the chair during winter: he'll be attracted by the soft fluffy blanket.)
Replying to @gintoxicating@transister.social
(in jest) Shocking 🤯
Replying to @Bubotomy@mastodon.social
Makes sense... but we are talking about English, so making sense doesn't make sense 🤭
@SeaDonut Probably a hefty monthly fee to use it too 😅
Replying to @PurpleStephyr@thetransagenda.gay
not downsideup? 🩷
Replying to @PurpleStephyr@thetransagenda.gay
and switchscriptions 🩷
Replying to @SimplyTadpole@plush.city
offers hugs, if wanted
Replying to @CrebboElodie@transfem.social
Ah... yes...
Replying to @akamran@indieweb.social
If only we could enable/disable it on demand.
It would help SO much during times that seem to last forever 😅
We're AuDHD, but ADHD-specific stuff hits hard sometimes 😅
The Queer Kiwi has done a rare video on ADHD memes, and before the first meme, she said the following:
... some days the ADHD... the ADHD is a little bit hard. And today is one of those days. And uh how you know this is that I am meant to start filming at like midday. I usually end up actually starting to film at like 2:00. Today I sat down to film at 4:30. What did I do all day? I don't know. Nothing. I did nothing. I- I- It was 10:00 in the morning and then it was 4:00 in the evening. What?! That's 6 hours of my life I lost today. I wasn't even procrast-... like I wasn't actively procrastinating. I... my screen time is not high. I wasn't on social media. I wasn't reading my book. I don't know what happened, but I blinked and 6 hours were gone. And now I'm here.
😅🙃
YouTuberelatable adhd memesReplying to @diffractie@glitterkitten.co.uk
Sometimes you gotta go long. Othertimes, you gotta go short.
Or ideally don't trade in stock options / asset sales etc., as the financial markets are evil and need to be dismantled 🤭🩷
Replying to @anon98@infosec.exchange
You might have benefitted from some actions personanlly, but you mustn't make the mistake of forcing what worked for you on to anybody else.
Just because we feel a certain way about many things related to transition ndoes not mean that it will vibe with everybody, or be useful to them.
If you force an egg to crack, you may end up with splattered on the floor.
You can use your own past experiences to inform your learning of what helps others, but if you see other trans+ folx only through the lens of your own experience and trauma, you will end up with a very narrow view...
... and that way leads to transmedicalism, becoming truscum, gatekeeping others, and becoming hateful.
That's the dark path / whirlpool of hate that folx like Blaire White and "tranpa" (Buck Angel) went down. It gets them an "in" with the fascists, but they just allow themselves to be used in the vain hope of being sparred when it's their turn to be taken to the concentration camps.
We have to disagree there.
We shouldn't force anybody to do anything. It's like the Matrix: we can only show them the door.
We can help them along, answer concerns, and give them a little push in terms of motivational sentiments, but we can't and shouldn't outright make them do anything.
We don't crack eggs: we build nests, so that they can hatch.
Many trans+ folx are ADHD or AuDHD, so being told what to do could even trigger oppositional defiance.
Not to mention that many of us have major trauma, so being outright told what to do could cause more harm than good 🥺
You can gently encourage, support, and guide, but when it comes to transition, each person has to choose their path.
Bodily autonomy means having the right to choose. We have to respect that, even if we disagree.
All we can do is be there for others.
We can't make them do anything, but we can give them resources, tools, and guides, and show them what is possible.
Go ahead in the dark tunnel and light torches for those who follow.
It's easier to say than do, but you've already managed to escape, and at the first chance you could.
We're proud of you for that.
You cannot undo your own past, but you can try to do the best you can do (which is whatever you're doing right now) to be yourself and enjoy the one life you get.
We know we only get this one chance. We'll do the best we can to help others, be as kind as we can (and stop being as much of a dick), and try to find some joy if we can whilst trying to survive.
Brain chemistry variations be weird.