But comparing gay porn to execution videos as if people taking part in a performance with consent is somehow the same as someone *literally being fucking killed* is just.. I don't even understand how a person could stitch those things together

If you don't like what a server hosts, block them. If you don't want to, that's on you.

It's absurd and entitled to expect other servers to curate your timeline for you, particularly when you can do it yourself.

You can't really pull the whole 'well if you're going to allow content I don't like, what if I started allowing content that you don't like?' thing on here because most of us are not children and will simply defederate you until you are talking to yourself in a void surrounded by the free speech weirdos posting hitler memes

An aside to the porn angle is this idea that the fedi needs to be family friendly, and servers other than yours need to do work to improve the appeal overall to a wider audience.

What about the people who *don't* want theirs to be family friendly. Why should one group's desire trump another's?

The fedi is more about people having the freedom to do what they want with their own spaces. Not become some homogeneous mass appeal system indistinguishable from other networks