Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋 :v_tg: :v_lb: :v_greyace:@faithisleaping@anarres.family

I’m sure I’ve said this before, but it never fails to weird me out a little bit that all these people I know used to walk around as other genders.

That trans guy friend? He’s such a dude! He actually likes lawn work. He’s so guy that he slides into the “makes me a little uncomfortable” territory. (Not toxic. Just a lot of “I don’t get you.”) And while I intellectually know that people used to think he was a girl, I literally can’t imagine it.

My girl friends? They’re all hot as hell and girlier than a 10-year-old’s unicorn themed birthday party. And people used to think we were dudes? Really? I mean, I’ve seen that pictures. I’ve watched many of them transition. I know what happened. But it still breaks my brain every time I think about it. At some point, the transition timelines are just silly.

This must be a least part of why cis people get wigged out. If I’m experiencing the cognitive dissonance and I’ve gone through it myself, I imagine it must be worse for someone for whom gender has always been a fixed thing.

Faith, Purple haired feminist 🧋 :v_tg: :v_lb: :v_greyace:@faithisleaping@anarres.family

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And sometimes I pick up on just a little bit of this from cis people.

My boss was in town this week and commented on my phone case and asked if I’d searched high and low to find the girliest one possible. It wasn’t mean or anything but there was definitely a hint of “you’re really committed to this, aren’t you?” in there.

I’m not even sure any of it had to at with being trans. It might have just been cognitive dissonance from me being both the most senior engineer in the company and the one with painted nails and a hot pink glitter phone case.

Jul 5, 2026, 15:29 UTCen