@SleepyCatten true, it took me 4 years to learn everything that I just learned so instead of going stealth, I want to help other baby trans people.

A 26-year-old trans woman made me transition at age 18, and I will make others transition younger.

@anon98

All we can do is be there for others.

We can't make them do anything, but we can give them resources, tools, and guides, and show them what is possible.

Go ahead in the dark tunnel and light torches for those who follow.

@SleepyCatten if that trans woman didn't force me to transition ASAP, I would transition too late I guess.

So we really have to force trans people/eggs to start HRT ASAP.

I wasn't sure at the beginning anyways but I'm proud of myself for starting HRT once I couldn't deny the fact that I'm trans.

@anon98

We have to disagree there.

We shouldn't force anybody to do anything. It's like the Matrix: we can only show them the door.

We can help them along, answer concerns, and give them a little push in terms of motivational sentiments, but we can't and shouldn't outright make them do anything.

We don't crack eggs: we build nests, so that they can hatch.

Many trans+ folx are ADHD or AuDHD, so being told what to do could even trigger oppositional defiance.

Not to mention that many of us have major trauma, so being outright told what to do could cause more harm than good 🥺

You can gently encourage, support, and guide, but when it comes to transition, each person has to choose their path.

Bodily autonomy means having the right to choose. We have to respect that, even if we disagree.

@anon98

You might have benefitted from some actions personanlly, but you mustn't make the mistake of forcing what worked for you on to anybody else.

Just because we feel a certain way about many things related to transition ndoes not mean that it will vibe with everybody, or be useful to them.

If you force an egg to crack, you may end up with splattered on the floor.

You can use your own past experiences to inform your learning of what helps others, but if you see other trans+ folx only through the lens of your own experience and trauma, you will end up with a very narrow view...

... and that way leads to transmedicalism, becoming truscum, gatekeeping others, and becoming hateful.

That's the dark path / whirlpool of hate that folx like Blaire White and "tranpa" (Buck Angel) went down. It gets them an "in" with the fascists, but they just allow themselves to be used in the vain hope of being sparred when it's their turn to be taken to the concentration camps.